On The Flip Side Of The Coin
Another Type Of Decluttering is about decluttering complaining and grudges from our lives.
There
is another side to this coin....
It's ok, and even necessary to say "I'm sorry" sometimes.
If
you are a grudge holder, and are human, you have probably done someone wrong yourself. I've actually met people that
cannot say those two words.
Apologizing may not be decluttering, but it definately lifts a heaviness from our
lives. So I guess you are decluttering a heavy burden.
Why can't people say those two words? There are two reasons I can think of:
- Pride. Some people just cannot humble themselves to say those two words. Do
they think that it makes them look bad? I am not sure. They will allow friendships and relationships to end because
they are too proud to say they were wrong.
- They see no wrong
in themselves. There are others who are very critical of everyone all around them, but see no wrong in
themselves. They will go for years without making amends with family members or former friends because they just cannot
see that they are as human as the rest of us.
By
the way, in my own opinion, saying "I apologize" is not the same as saying "I'm sorry". The first
sounds obligatory, the second sounds humble.
Do you fit one of these categories?
If you
do, why not take a deeper look at your own faults, humble yourself, and find out how good it feels to say those two small
words. Yes, it's hard for all of us to work up the courage to apologize, but some of us push past the hard part and
do what is right anyway. And yes, it is right to apologize when we've wronged someone.
Apologizing
absolutely
includes family members! There are times I have been wrong toward my husband and my children, and I will tell them those
two little words because they are worth it to me.
And by the way, when I see another person apologize, it makes them a little taller
in my eyes.
Make sure humility and sincerity towards others is part of your life. Apologize when necessary, and mean it.
